Monday, June 6th: Matt leaves for Kenya to speak at a leadership conference. I leave my dish in the sink and ignore the trash because I can! I’m alone and free!
Tuesday, June 7th: Not woken up by Matt’s 4:30am routine, I sleep in until 6:00am. Ignore dish in sink because I can. Take the trash bag and put it in my trunk to drop it off in the community dumpster. Eat a salad with whatever vegetables I want. Set up three meetings with late hours and wearily eat hummus for dinner. I’m alone and free.
Wednesday, June 8th: I wake up alone. Pack my own lunch. Ignore my dish in the sink but miss Matt. So I wash it. Go to work. Remember that I STILL have trash in my trunk?! Walk to dumpster. Come home alone and think to myself about the cost of being free.
Thursday, June 9th: I regret ever complaining about dishes or trash. I clean the whole house when I get back from work and tell Matt so he’ll miss me. He does. Go to bed… alone and free?
Friday, June 10th: Attempt to wash laundry but get confused as to where the supplies are since Matt insists on doing the laundry. I pour in soap and feel pathetic that I hate being alone. Skype Matt after work and tell him I promise to not complain about the budget, doing dishes, or forgetting to take trash out from my car if he comes home. He laughs. I sigh. I tell him I miss him and I hate being alone. He sends me a Skype heart. I laugh. He sighs.
The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” —Genesis 2:18
Some people were created to be alone and free. I’m just not one of them. 🙂 This girl relinquishes freedom in exchange for a helper and friend suitable for life! Amen.
jas
So glad you have Matt. You have a great helper. A great helper.
But that verse (and this post) just makes me feel a little alone and sad.
I was alone last week too, thanks for the verse! I needed that!
Love this perspective!!! This makes me want to relinquish my freedom!
what a great post! man… i have to say, being alone just sucks. I've gotten used to it… i can wash the one dish and take out the trash and all… but yep. it sucks. I love the freedom to know i can function by myself, but i'm so thankful for togetherness… as i post this comment watching a 12 yr old boy and his 15 yr old sister make each other laugh about the out of place hair they can see on the news anchor lady because they think HD is that cool… and that you can only see it in HD:) the wonder of my future step kids.
We've been married nearly 13 years and are almost done with a 10 Day separation (10!) – the longest in our marriage. I'm a blend – there are things I can get done around the house when he's gone (like washing & painting the living room ceiling), but every separation makes me miss him so much more. I'm so glad that he's coming home tomorrow night!
My friend / beloved and I will be getting married July 9,
Can't wait to see what blessing God has in store for us.
I'm so excited 🙂
Thanks for sharing B!
I love my helper! He had day off yesterday and I didn’t and came home to a clean house, cooked meal and took a walk together. He makes the effort, then I make the effort…and we are both very happy.
I'm glad your hubby is coming home, but I understand where Lindsey is coming from. My husband left two years ago and I'm still trying to comes to terms with the alone part(mostly at night when everything is quiet and I'm all alone). It's an ongoing process….I love that verse!
Love it!
That was cute 🙂
absence makes the heart grow fonder!! Love, Mom
Jealous.
When can I relinquish my freedom in exchange for companionship?
Oh boy do I hear you here! It's kind of a cruel joke…. especially when you are married and still alone so much. Wow that sounded way more depressing than I meant it too 🙂 I know God is teaching me lessons in the moments of being alone. The many many moments.
Wow, I agree with quite a few commentors. You have Matt, good for you but what about those who don't have anyone? Matt's away but he's coming back but for some though they long to have someone they too can miss, some of them will be denied the very blessing you have. Though some desire marriage and family, not everyone will be granted their desire by the Lord. I'm not saying that you have no right to miss Matt, aftterall life will teaches us that loneliness is not just limited to the area of singleness but is reacurring in all stages of life to constantly help us have our eyes fixed on Christ, but the way this post comes across is like a rich person standing in front of a starving beggar going "look at me, look at me I have all this money" whilst eating a hamburgar. I think the key here is empathy. Remember Bianca that you were once single….
"Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another."- Galatians 5:26
"Do not cause your brother (sister) to stumble…"- Romans 14:21, 1 Corinthians 8:13
We can "rejoice with those who rejoice AND mourn with those who mourn." (Romans 12:15)
I am sorry Niki, the you could not see what I perceived to be the spirit of the post.
When I read this I did not sense that Bianca was ignorantly boasting of something that you don't or can't have. It seemed more like she was sharing something she learned about herself and being alone. She did say, "Some people were created to be alone and free. I’m just not one of them."
Reading this post stirred many mixed emotions for myself. Having been married 12 years I have found that marriage can have many different stages/facets. It is possible to be married and intensely lonely. Reading this made me miss something that I had and now don't have and long for. So yes, I was a bit sad. But I am also incredibly happy that my sister in the Lord has found love and friendship. And I would pray for continued blessings for her and her husband in this new partnership/friendship.
This post did not seem to be written from conceit but from a freshness of love that is just beautiful and cannot help but be shared.
So I take this opportunity to not only rejoice with my sister, but also to take my own sadness and "press in" to my Lord and Savior who never leaves me or forsakes me and who is my comfort in time of need.
Thank you Bianca for sharing from your overflow of love.
No one is created to be alone. Though not everyone will get married, God did create us for community. Its a human need, we all need relationships with each other. That verse you shared is not limited to marriage alone.
The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!" 1 Corinthians 12:21
Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down,his friend can help him up.But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
ahhhhhhhhhhhh love love love this. Yes, I've done the trash thing too. and the free thing. And the "when the heck is he coming home again" thing. 🙂
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