Expect nothing and you’ll never be disappointed. Or so they say…
Expectations of others preclude our spoken word. Expectations exist without awareness. But expectations exist to create space for the happiness of the unexpected.
I expected our honeymoon to be perfect and glamorous and everything my dreams promised it would be. But after an exhausting flight, lost luggage, extortion transportation to the hotel, and a room with a view of a chain link fence, I fell into the arms of my husband and cried. It was nothing I expected. But neither was what happened after. Within minutes Matt was on the phone making arrangements at a new hotel, transferring our luggage, and hailing a taxi cab. An unexpected treat from an unmet expectation.
I expected the chaos my best friend and I would face on our immediate stretch of travel we both committed to prior to the wedding. But I wasn’t expecting to feel like a piece of me was traveling the world when my husband was. I was expecting to face stress, anxiety, and loads of laundry needing to be done. I wasn’t expecting to miss him while he was still in my presence. I wasn’t expecting to wear his cologne simply so I could smell him while he’s away. But this is an unexpected treat from an unmet expectation.
I was expecting the expected. But it was in the unexpected I found happiness and my reality. A reality better than my expectations.
Wow…that's awesome what Matt did on your honeymoon. Great post, Bianca. Beautifully shared.
That so beautiful Bianca. I saw the pictures of your wedding on Jasmine's site and they are stunning – not only the shots themselves or the way you and Matt look but your feelings for each other that shine from them. I don't picture my wedding day in terms of what flowers I will have or what my bridesmaids will be wearing, but I picture the photo's that come from the day and seeing yours gives me hope that those feelings can exist and the beauty can be captured.
Ok, I'm going to go now before I start crying! 😉
I lov e this Bianca. When my husband and I were first married I felt exactly the exact same way.
I learned that my expectations could have ruined something beautiful the Lord had for me. 🙂 thank you for sharing this!
Beautifully written! 🙂
What a nice blog post 🙂 Beautiful!
Beautiful! It's been two years since I married the man of my dreams, and I still wear his shirts after he leaves for work so i can smell him as I fall back asleep ♥
Superb and so well said. So true that we find hapiness in the things that are unexpected.__Maybe that's why God chose to not give away what His kingdom will be like……it will be beyond our expectations.
Expectantly beautiful! 🙂 143
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Love this! I had a recent experience when I decided to attend a WPPI event here in Chicago. I was nervous that I woudn't meet anyone, but was excited I'd get to hear your sister, Jasmine Star, speak at least, and if I was lucky I'd get a chance to meet her too. Well, as nervous as I was and expecting that none of the things I wished to happen would happen…they did. I got to meet Jasmine (almost balled my eyes out lol), and tell her what an inspiration she is to me, how I loved her work (my fav being your wedding) and her genuine peronsality and all that she shared. I wasn't expecting to be as moved as I was when I met her nor the huge effect I got from hearing her speak and talking to her personally. Or emailing her and her actually responding to me! I loved the unexpected things that came from that day…and excited to see where they take me. Thanks for this…I think you ROCK too!
this post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: "different from what you imagined, but better than what you expected" – @lynette lewis.
I love how God's will is always better than the will we had for ourselves! 🙂
That was lovely. Especially Zero 7. Somersault is one of the best songs ever written!
This post could make the biggest cynic fall in love with falling in love. Praying many years of unexpected happiness for you two!
Bianca! You both are so blessed to know and love one another and I'm truly happy for both of you and your marriage!
Christmas 2009! was the best ever. Our Family got the unexpected!
May you continue to be content and satisfied with the blessings God has given you in marriage. Happy for you, and welcome to the marriage club.
i so love your attitude… it is the bomb-diggity 🙂 you are content… and it is beautiful
LOVE this post! Wow!
I am living in the midst of some very tough unexpected … and I see that I really need to focus on what the Lord may be able to bring from the challenges.
Mama D.
I love it! i love your married posts! its so amazing to read your posts and see what God doing on and through your marriage. it hasn’t been too long yet, but i know He’s already working. I’m beyond happy for both of you!
Love you :),
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That's so good! I get so upset when things don't go according to plan. It's like I feel like I missed out on something that was going to be so amazing, but for one reason or another just wasn't. What an amazing perspective.
Bi! STOP MAKING ME CRY!
I loved how you wrote this…honeymoon are definitely loaded with expectations! But you are right, " it was in the unexpected I found happiness and my reality. A reality better than my expectations." Thanks for this reminder Bianca 🙂
The greater the sinner the greater the saint.
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