The Same Page of the Same Book
After a weekend away with my husband I’ve realized that I don’t need a lot to make my marriage happy.
There are giant seminars you can take; you can go to big Weekends to Think About Big Stuff and hear expensive popular speakers talk about all kinds of things from intimacy to kids to Affair-Proofing {as if it is the same as child-proofing} and Ten Steps to Something. You can do that.
We’ve done that. There is value to that.
You can read books that give you quick fixes with titles like If You Do Only One Thing to Save Your Marriage, Do This. There are couples devotion books, there are couples Spice Up Your Christian Marriage series, and there are most certainly stacks of these books by the side of my bed. Some of them gathering dust on spines and pages {because I ALWAYS throw dust covers away} and others of them have been regularly flipped through and live near the toilet.
You can learn Languages and “I” statements and all of those things. Yes, I am a big proponent of all of this.
But I’ve learned something new this weekend.
What might be more important than all of that, Important Speaker and Bestselling Book aside, is a simple, connected act.
It’s not sex, although that is a must.
It isn’t church, although that is really important too.
It isn’t listening or knowing or seeing or any of that.
It is holding hands and walking forward in the same direction.
It’s the simple act of creating a shared goal, grabbing mother- and father-worn hands together and moving toward that thing as one. A God-loving family, a family that isn’t afraid to do hard things, a family that will be able to say “We were scared but we trusted God.” Those are our goals.
Working with someone for the same end is fabulously intimate and amazingly connecting. And when my husband and I are on the same page of the same book then most of the rest of life works well.
We end up listening to each other more, we end up “speaking” in each other’s “languages” naturally, and we are intimately drawn to one another because let’s just face it, it’s attractive when are both working and walking together.
When we take the time to be on the same page of the same book as our spouse it is a beautiful thing.
Go to the Big Giant Marriage Weekend and buy the next Seven Step Book to Be Close. But don’t forget the
simplistic
minimalistic
perfection of standing side by side, seeing the same end-of-the-road in the distance and walking forward together.
For Sarah’s marriage story click here: http://www.sarahmarkley.com/story/
Awesome feedback on marriage! I’ll have to share with my husband when he gets home! “walk forward in the same direction” simple
wonderful, norma. sometimes simplicity is the best thing.
loved the post….from someone who has gone thru it all with her husband and still working through it all…i agree with all u said…thanks for the great post Sarah!
thank you christy. =)
Loved this advice! A great picture of the value in contentedly walking in the same direction together – that's the sweet life.
thanks and I agree! the good life. =)
Great advice!! So true and it's kind of like that in our relationship with God. Sure we can go to conferences and buy books and stuff and all that is great, but sometimes it's just sitting in His presence and praising Him that makes every thing worth while. Stay blessed! 🙂
so true, Tara. Thank you!
Very simple yet inspiring! A marriage is largely held together by the simple, little things 🙂
by no means have we "arrived". i think, like everything, marriage is something that should be tackled day by day. some days are great and some aren't. but always, we go back to the most important things. thanks for your honesty, michelle.
Very simple…something I need to be reminded of.
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