Do you have a chocolate hangover? Did you enjoy Valentine’s Day? If you were with your bae, your besties, or yourself, I hope you know that this girl right here LOVES you. Like, legit cares for your heart. (And one day I hope to be a real matchmaker and set up all my single friends with men who love Jesus and have jobs. F’real.)
We are prone to falling hard and falling fast when it comes to love. But let’s slow our roll and get to know the person we are interested in before we start dreaming of the white picket fence and 2.5 kids!
As we enter into dating relationships, this session will help us discuss:
- The importance of getting to know someone
- Taking your time in relationships
- Not rushing to the altar
I’ve heard so many of my friends say they are afraid of being alone. But there’s worse things than being alone…like marrying the wrong person. (Or worse, marrying the wrong person and discovering they also have bad toes too. But I digress.)
Check out today’s video and feel free to share thoughts, feedback, or comments! Stay tuned for more.
In the name of love,
Bianca Juarez Olthoff
Thanks my sis for affirming what I believe, even though sometimes one gets discouraged nd begin to question your beliefs since you still remain single. Thanks for encouraging to me.
MY honor! Thanks 🙂
Love this mini series you are doing. So great especially around the time of Valentine’s Day. So I met this guy at church, he loves the Lord and is a wonderful guy. We have been through a few trials already regarding pass issues that have been brought up. Sometimes, my feelings aren’t fully there. I love him and I know that, but my heart doesn’t always flutter or get super excited. Is that okay? Should that be a red flag to pay attention to? Does this just need time to evolve? I’ve been praying so much regarding he and I. Making sure we are in the path of the Lord. That this is His will and not ours. It just throws me for a loop sometimes. I got out of a relationship a while ago, and it just makes me a little cautious because my feelings aren’t always were my mind is. It’s caused a few walls to go up at times, but I do trust God in this. It was an unexpected relationship that I never saw coming nor was I looking for. Do you have any Biblical advice on this?
GREAT question, Shay! Ok, at the end of the day, only you can answer that question. However, let me affirm you for asking that question in the first place. On Monday we discussed attraction and the importance of it in a relationship (check it out if you haven’t see it). I have been in the EXACT place you’ve been in and it’s hard. Someone can “tick all the boxes” and yet you might be missing the spark. Spark is needed, but it’s not everything. I would give the relationship some time to breathe (3-4 months) and then do a heart-check.
Am I attracted to this person? Can I see myself with him forever? Is it something that we can discuss? If the answer is yes, then proceed. But if in your heart you know it’s done, then just be honest. The worst thing would be to try to manufacture the emotions and attraction because it the end, it will hurt more. Hope this helps!
You have done a wonderful job of keeping it “real” and practical for us ladies. Thank you for pouring into our lives and reminding us that our ultimate goal is to be in love in a manner that brings honor and glory to God . Heart, body, mind and soul.
Keep up the God work girl.
Wishing you continued blessings.
Wonderful, Mari! Thanks 🙂
Are we on the mount of transfiguration because you are glowing. You have heard it all indeed. Thank you very much for your truth table study this week. It really has blessed me. Im learning how to define relationships better. God give you more grace. Love you and the entire propel team fiercely.
I loved what you said about finding out what someone’s name is etched in! It’s like making sure their foundation is on the rock and not sand!!
I know that this is a DTR series but, I was wondering if you could give any insight (if you have any, if not it’s cool) on consecration, aka intentional singleness for the sake of knowing the Lord more.
I LOVE this question. I may not be the wisest person, but I definitely have some thoughts on what I call a “single sabbatical”!
When it came to dating, I didn’t date much (IE: no one asked me out). However, just because I wasn’t dating didn’t mean I wasn’t obsessed with IDEA of dating. Before I knew it, I was absorbed with me, myself, and I and why no one would ask me out. That was a major red flag and I wanted to take some time to be focused of Jesus. So I would take some time (3 months, 6 months, however long) to intentionally get my priorities aligned.
Some of my friends have said when they do this, some guys comes along. I laugh because that would totally be a TEMPTATION! Hello?! But I know the Lord loves when we put Him as a priority and we know through scripture that God is a rewarder of those who seek Him. (Note: “Reward” isn’t a man, it’s intimacy with God.) So I definitely advocate taking time to abstain from dating to get your heart and priorities aligned. Cheers!
A friend just introduced me to your videos and I love them! Thank you for your faithfulness and wisdom through God’s word!
Thanks for the love. Glad you are enjoying them. XO